Is Your Vacation or Leisure & Recreation Time Serving You?
November 2, 2026 | Posted in Living Hartfully | By Gaia Hart
I was recently reminded of how critical it is to match your type of leisure, recreation, and vacation choices to your needs for doing them and how a mis-matched fit can cause frustration, fatigue, and sickness rather than renewing, refreshing, and re-creating your psyche anew. Afterall, the word recreation means to re-create and restore your mind and body. It can be as nuanced as to how you’re doing what you’re doing rather than changing the entire what you’re doing. Or you may need to just change up the entire thing.
When we seek our leisure, recreation and vacations, it is to get away from what our normal work day or normal routine is generally like. It’s a break from the same old, same old thing to change things up and hit reset. That’s what sabbaticals were originally used for – to give professionals time off to recharge and reflect, and renew themselves and come back refreshed with more energy and focus to do whatever they were doing. Just yesterday I came across this blot post I did nearly exactly 18 years ago on Self-batticals and it still rings true today. Funny how that works with manifesting. To take a look at the throwback post – here it is: Self-Batticals and The Art of Self-Care – 3 November 2008: https://gaiahart.com/2008/11/ .
What reminded me of this topic were a few instances. A friend had just come back from a grand adventure in Peru to see and do all the things that one does when exploring the mountains and jungles and sacred sites. She came home sick – same as I did when I experienced all of the things on my Peruvian odyssey. How I described it to my friends was that it was a grueling adventure. Up by 5am nearly every day to hike, climb, canoe and be on the road to get to the next destination for more hiking, climbing at altitude etc. Both of us took those trips amid extremely busy work/business schedules and our vacations were pure exploration and not a drop of restoration. No wonder we both got sick.
Being a high-sensation-seeker, I got sick on nearly every trek and trip I took for decades because I was working hard and playing harder. No time to rest and restore – it was go, go, go, places to see, things to do, people to meet. Until my body forced me to slow down by getting sick, even though my brain didn’t want to miss out on anything. Especially if you are under stress, pressure, and working hard, your leisure, recreation and vacation time needs to be a break from all of that and be restorative. Build in restoration time in your vacation schedule. Or plan an entire vacation around relaxation and restoration and not necessarily exploration so you slow down your pace. Stay away from any group tours that force your pace and place and choose private guides or just stay in one place and wander at your own leisure, nap, lounge, stay put and pay attention to new surroundings, food, sounds, and sights.
The same goes for your recreation choices at home. If it starts feeling like a part-time job to get up early, drive to the courts, the course, or trails during rush hour traffic, set an alarm to be at the computer to pounce on a slot open for the fitness class that fills in one minute past 7am or you feel the pressure to perform in a tournament or find a sub if you can’t make your league play that day, then there may be an issue. I found this to be true in my 55 and fun community. I’ve chosen not to set alarms to rush to the computer to sign up for the next week’s fitness classes – if there is an opening when I get to that day, fine and if not, I awake when my body is ready. I play sports in drop-in when you can and leave when you have to format instead of tournaments and leagues. I don’t need any more pressure put on me and my schedule. Instead, I go with the flow and how I feel that day and at that time and it works out so much better than adhering to a strict schedule after I ditched the strict schedules when I retired.
This philosophy also works for activities you may have thought you’d like to try or may have enjoyed at one time in your life, but now it doesn’t serve the same purpose. This happened to me with gluten-free sourdough bread baking, gardening and yard work. The term work is in the name and I don’t want my yard to become a part -time job. I spent one summer raising a vegetable garden and another two seasons with a flower garden before I called it quits. I’ll buy my vegs at a farmer’s market and leave the growing to the experts. I replaced flowers with evergreen shrubs after a couple seasons of frost and planting/digging up/replanting over 450 plants. I now buy fresh flowers for my home. I thought sourdough bread baking would be fun…..it was another part-time job and like having a pet you had to feed and nurture. I will leave that to the expert bakers so I can regain many hours of my time and not have to wait several days for a slice of bread.
So pay attention to how you feel leading up to an activity, while you’re participating and afterwards. Are you renewed or run ragged? Do you anticipate with delight or dread? Listen to your body and anticipate what you need – more exploration to get you out of boredom or more restoration to renew you from overwork and stress, then plan something that will serve you in the best way possible.
On a similar note – I’ll be reviewing the latest book from Annet Van Duinan and Randy Grasser on the topic of Reclusive Self Improvement – also having to do with exploration, restoration and reflection as phases/seasons in life.
What is a Wild Sensitive?
September 13, 2026 | Posted in Living Hartfully | By Gaia Hart
As I’ve been writing about Highly Sensitive People and High Sensation Seekers, a Wild Sensitive is a term coined by authors Randy Grasser and Annet van Duinen to describe what is otherwise known as a Sensitive Sensation Seeker. The community understands it is a mouthful to always say the entire descriptor of our unique traits that have paradoxically blended together to form our life’s foundation, hence the term Wild Sensitive. Those with this trait have a need for deep reflection and a craving for new experiences. Recent research has shown even more evidence of differences in the brain of Sensitive Sensation Seekers/Wild Sensitives.
If you’re not already familiar with these terms – first read the last few blog posts describing the four characteristics each of Highly Sensitives and High Sensation Seekers, then this will make much more sense. Sensitivity is not the problem, misunderstanding it or even knowing it exists is the issue and society’s interpretation of it is a problem. Though there does come some struggle along with the strengths it provides. Some struggles may include burnout and overwhelm, boundary setting, heightened emotional reactivity, social exhaustion and over-stimulation. The book covers strategies to handle these struggles as well as how to foster the strengths of deep empathy and emotional insight, creativity and rich imagination, detail-oriented perception and intuition, and strength of ethical awareness and social conscientiousness. If these traits sound familiar to you – YOU NEED THIS BOOK.
To quote their book The Wild Sensitive, “Sensitivity is not a weakness. Craving life is not a flaw. You were never meant to simply fit in. You were meant to awaken, to feel deeply, to grow wisely, and to live wildly: This is where your journey begins. This is where you become a Wild Sensitive”. The book’s intro goes on. “It is not a contradiction, but a potent combination. When these traits are seen, understood, and embraced, they become the foundation for real, embodied, transformation.”
Their Wild Sensitive book describes the science behind sensitivity and sensation seeking. It is a guidebook for learning about the Sensitive Sensation Seeking trait with many tools for using when you are feeling overwhelmed, along with explanations of why/how this happens, understanding your emotional blueprint, and strategies for coping with dysregulation. It covers the Six Zones of Life, The Adventure Triskelion, relationships and leadership of the Wild Sensitive and how you can make your way through the world armed with better knowledge of how your traits work together to form your superpower and not your downfall.
The Wild Sensitive: Unlocking the Power of the Highly Sensitive Sensation Seeker
by Randy Grasser (Author), Annet van Duinen (Author), Tracy Cooper Ph.D (Foreword)
Written by Randy Grasser and Annet van Duinen, pioneering authors specializing in the Highly Sensitive Sensation Seeker (HSP-HSS), this guide explores the powerful combination of Sensory Processing Sensitivity and High Sensation Seeking, creators of The Wild Sensitive. Drawing on lived experience, research, and practical insight, it offers a new understanding of what it means to feel deeply and live boldly.
I cannot begin to explain what insights this book has brought to my life. I usually dog-ear the top corner of the pages of a book that speak to me, then I dog-ear the bottom corner if it REALLY speaks to me and then I may highlight a sentence. Well…. I stopped dogearing all the pages after the first several pages because it was nearly every single page, AND I was not only highlighting sentences and paragraphs, I started putting highlighted stars and exclamation points and multiple stars and exclamation points on specific paragraphs. I felt like Annet and Randy were in my brain and in my life and had the incredibly insightful, professional, therapeutic terms, explanations, diagnostic tools and prescriptions for dealing with this quite perplexing complexity of being a Highly Sensitive Person as well as a High Sensation Seeking Extroverted Empath. There just wasn’t anything on the market out there perfectly describing my lifestyle, my inherent traits and how to cope, manage, and organize my life to support my internal and external self.
Yes, they use the word WILD, but that doesn’t mean reckless or that you need to be sky diving and bungee jumping – though that is what I’ve been drawn to, it can mean your sense of boldness and expression – writing a book, singing, being a public speaker, traveling to foreign countries, learning a new language. If you or anybody you know is Highly Sensitive, but seem larger than just being sensitive, they do things that make them feel ALIVE and they get bored easily or are more disinhibited than others, then tell them about this book. AND send them to the websites the authors have initiated to create a community of fellow Wild Sensitives where we can learn and discuss in a safe space. Here are their sites: https://wildsensitive.com/ and the village community site: https://village.wildsensitive.com/
Thrill: Sensitive Sensation Seekers & Everyday Creativity
September 10, 2026 | Posted in Living Hartfully | By Gaia Hart
Dr. Tracy Cooper, Ph.D. one of the leading authorities and researchers on Highly Sensitive People and High Sensation Seekers known as Sensitive Sensation Seekers, https://drtracycooper.org/ has brought us more gems of ground-breaking research in his second edition of Thrill as an addition to his first edition of Thrill: The High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person. The 2nd edition is filled with even more recent intelligence on Sensitive Sensation Seekers. His latest books Thrill (2nd Edition): Embracing the Paradox of Sensitivity and Sensation Seeking is a completely different book than the first edition – not just a rewrite. This 2nd edition takes the reader to new levels of understanding based on his and other recent research into the paradox of living with both traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person and a High Sensation Seeker.
He simultaneously wrote a companion book to the 2nd edition covering 25 Sensitive Sensation Seekers from around the world at all life stages and ages with in-depth interviews of how these Sensitive Sensation Seekers have created their lives to embrace their paradoxical traits, even if they didn’t know they had them or even know what it meant to be a Highly Sensitive Person or a High Sensation Seeker. The companion book is called Thrill: Everyday Creators.
If you want to take a deeper dive into the why, what, and how others have embraced their perplexing complexity of traits to strategically manage their lives and create a life of design and not default, then you need both of these books. The 2nd Edition of Thrill gives you the research, the WHAT and the WHY. The companion book on Everyday Creators lets you take a peek behind the curtain of HOW others with these traits have survived, fallen, thrived, flailed, and succeeded by trial and error in their iterative process to learn how to live with the duality of depth and daring, security and seeking, with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.
These are not How-To books, because the how is very personalized depending upon the individual, their specific trait properties, context, interests, lifestyles and choices. Each individual must forge their own way forward, testing the waters of overstimulation and under-stimulation/boredom to test their own personal tolerances for keeping themselves in balance and in the flow state unique to them. These books are imperative reading for those who think or know they have the paradoxical traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person and a High Sensation Seeker in order to better understand yourself and how you move through the world and how to adapt everything in your life at every level so you can maintain your equilibrium and avoid overwhelm as well as boredom.
I am humbled and honored to be one of those 25 people interviewed for the companion book on how I managed to creatively design my life around traits I didn’t know existed until I was 60 – totally living by intuition and trusting what my body told me for many decades. My hope is that you find these books and Dr. Cooper’s research in your younger years so you can understand yourself and your needs and how to create a life that will support your special traits where you need both meaningful stimulation and time to recover. These traits are your super power. The very act of designing a life and a career in an artful way to best support your gifts/talents/skills is the very act of being a creative.
Review of the 2nd edition of Thrill: Embracing the Paradox of Sensitivity and Sensation Seeking. Thanks to Dr. Cooper’s research, insight, and guidance, the act of designing your life can be distilled to the art and science of creating your individual flow between overstimulation and boredom based on your personal tolerances. His book gives you a structure on which to overlay your personal traits to create optimal life experiences. It’s your secret decoder ring for any Sensitive Sensation Seeker who wants to solve your individual puzzle to create a supportive structure as the architect of your life. This book gives you the sides and corner pieces of the puzzle and it’s up to you to fill in your own picture of how you want your life to look.
In this new edition of Thrill, Dr. Cooper’s brilliant, ground-breaking research breaks down how Highly Sensitive People and High Sensation Seekers use the tension between the paradox of living in the flow between over-stimulation and overwhelm on one side and boredom/under-stimulation on the other side. They often cross over the line into overwhelm or boredom for that is the nature of the beast – trying to learn where your personal boundaries are for each of the states. For some Sensitive Sensation Seekers with a lower volume of intensity or perhaps only one or two of the four characteristics of a High Sensation Seeker and a low volume of High Sensitivity or Sensory Processing Sensitivity, their path between overwhelm and boredom may be a wide walking path.
For Sensitive Sensation Seekers with a high volume in all four categories of the Sensation Seeking trait, there is a thin tightrope of flow between the states of overwhelm and underwhelm. Those with high scores in both the Highly Sensitive inventory and the High Sensation Seeking inventory often bump up against and cross over into these other states, as their tolerance is much more narrow in order to remain balanced in the flow state.
Sensitive Sensation Seekers are driven to feel that inner aliveness and creative processing tension between how we take in the world through our sensitivities and how we express to the world through our sensation seeking. The need for novelty, challenge, experimentation, surprise and excitement needs to be balanced with regrouping, rest, processing time, and recovery time to protect the sensitivities. It is through this balancing act we find the tension that enables creativity. It’s the dissonance that creates energy and emotional energy that can get stuck in the body without proper expression.
It’s a constant iterative recalibration to test tolerances and what works to both protect and project your energy in nearly all circumstances. We need to discharge those emotions and feelings and transfer them outside of our body to avoid the stuck energy, which can lead to more stress, strokes, depression, heart attacks, disease (dis-ease), agitation, irritability, etc. The higher the emotion and intensity of the tension between your paradox of sensitivities and sensation seeking tendencies, the more cognitive load you have to discharge to dissipate the overload/over-stimulation and regulate back to your equilibrium.
If there is more tension, (from far too much stimulation or if you have a high volume of Sensation Seeker and Sensitivity traits) you may first need bigger energy releases and exertion such as heavy weightlifting, running, biking, soccer, dancing or other types of movement to lower the tension and intensity of dissonance. If there is less dissonance and less intense tension between your paradoxes, then you may need calmer methods of discharging the creative energy that has built up by doing art projects, napping, reading, cooking, creative writing, petting an animal, playing with your pet or organizing your closet as a way to dissipate the tension and get back in balance and into the flow state.
What can be good for you can also be bad for you if you overdue it. You may find weightlifting is your go-to move, but too much of it can lead to injury or you may find yourself bored with the same routine. The methods of movement you choose to bring yourself out of boredom or out of overwhelm is highly individualized and highly contextual for the same person. It’s something that has to be felt and experienced by each person and in each circumstance and you learn more as you go through life and learn what works best for you to keep you in the flow state of equilibrium and balance.
To maintain creative capacity, Sensitive Sensation Seekers need to offload the cognitive load and discharge the intensity of the excess energy and restlessness of overwhelm, which can be done through various creative processes, rhythm and movement to move from restlessness to calm, from the amygdala to the prefrontal cortex for executive functioning. Knowing that what feeds you can also wear you out is a game changer for keeping you in the flow state of emotional regulation through creative expression to bring your system back into balance and back into flow, particularly for those with the highest paradox intensity, it is essential. Read this book and your Sensitive Sensation Seeking life will never be the same.
Review of Thrill: Everyday Creators. This companion book to the 2nd edition of Thrill: Embracing the Paradox of Sensitivity and Sensation Seeking offers real-life situations from in-depth interviews with 25 Highly Sensitive, High Sensation Seekers from around the world in various life stages and ages to present the reader with real-life examples and experiences of those who are living with the complex and perplexing paradox of being both Highly Sensitive and High Sensation Seeking. This companion book gives you examples of the HOW of living with both of these traits affects all aspects of your life and shows how others are living with discernment about knowing what excites them and what it costs afterwards and there is always a cost. It shows how others live in the stretch zone and what it looks like to visit the panic zone and how they recovered from it.
It’s a delicate balance between immersion in the excitement/challenge/novelty/intensity and the type and amount of recovery that is needed afterwards to keep Sensitive Sensation Seekers in the flow and learning what has to be included to attune to each person’s specific frequency of paradox intensity to avoid overstimulation or boredom. This book shows you how others have done it, have done it wrong, are doing it right and share their stumbling blocks so you can use them as your stepping stones to remain in the creative flow of all areas of life. I highly recommend reading the research-based book first, then the companion book for examples of how others have lived their experiences often without having any knowledge of sensitivities. Use their experience as your guard rails and use Dr. Cooper’s ground-breaking research as your guide. Your life will not be the same after gaining insights from his two latest books.
Books by Dr. Tracy M. Cooper, Ph.D. – one of the leading authorities and researchers on Highly Sensitive People and High Sensation Seekers. https://drtracycooper.org/
Thrill – Everyday Creators companion book
Thrill (2nd Edition): Embracing the Paradox of Sensitivity and Sensation Seeking
What is a Highly Sensitive Person? Resources for You to Find Out.
March 14, 2026 | Posted in Living Hartfully | By Gaia Hart
After watching the Prime Video Documentary Sensitive: The Untold Story, intuitively I knew I had to learn more about this thing called a Highly Sensitive Person and I dove in headfirst into everything I could find on the topic. How could it be that I’d been in the self-help, professional development, personal enrichment, coaching field for decades as a certified facilitator of several personality trait instruments, and I’d never heard of such a thing.
It was Dr. Elaine Aron who started researching the topic of High Sensitivity, officially known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity as a trait in 1991 and it further rolled out in the later 1990s and has been growing in understanding ever since. HSP is not a disorder nor a disability. It is a trait that some would call a superpower that 20-30% of the population exhibits with further breakdowns in percentages as you combine High Sensation Seeking and a lower percentage of Extroverts vs. Introverts with this trait. It can be explained using the acronym DOES. Here is a brief example representing each of the letters with an expanded explanation on Dr. Aron’s site HSPerson. Be sure and read her books and workbooks as well to give you a jump-start into your journey – found on her site.
- Depth of Processing: Do you reflect more than others about the way the world is going or any other topic, need a little more time to make decisions, known for good ideas and thoughtful internal dialog?
- Over Stimulation: Do you experience overstimulation and burn out due to sheer amount of incoming information, need a quieter/calmer environment to think and process, need more sleep or downtime to recoup?
- Empathy & Emotional Responsiveness: Are you more easily moved to tears of joy, gratitude, relief or equally moved to laughter, do you tend to react with emotions similar to others – you catch their emotions and feel similarly, are more distressed by violence, horror, bullying in TV shows/movies, or are disturbed more than others by social injustice, unfairness, arguing?
- Sensitive to Subtleties: Do you notice details other normally miss, or sense how somebody may feel, if things are out of sorts or if décor is moved around, more aware of small environmental or house noises and temperatures, susceptible to humidity and temperature changes, textures, tastes, light and sounds?
You can read more about her research, find resources, take the self-assessments to see if you are a Highly Sensitive Person or a High Sensation Seeker on her website HSPerson.com. She also has a link to the first-ever documentary film series covering the topic of Highly Sensitive Men called Sensitive Men Rising that was just released in the past couple years – so this is a new and burgeoning area of study. The resource page on HSPerson has many other books and articles: HSPerson. Here’s a link to the Sensitive Men Rising site.
I found a guide who was also a High Sensation Seeking, Highly Sensitive Person who could customize my learning curve specifically tailored to my life. Having her was an invaluable resource in shortening the time it took me to get up to speed and understand how knowing of these traits and how they fit together and fit into every single area of my life was essential to moving forward making the right decisions for me to live more attuned, content, and awakened to what I need in my life to fully support who I am and who I am becoming. It was also an amazing experience to reframe so many experiences in my former years, why they affected me in such a manner, and how not to become dysregulated and burned out in the future.
Another favorite resource I read regularly is the Highly Sensitive Refuge blog. They offer oodles of articles on all topics concerning Highly Sensitive People and I find it extremely helpful. I always have it pulled up on my phone to read while in waiting rooms for one thing or another. It’s positive and has impactful tips that you can implement immediately.
